2011 Recap

What worked?

• Focusing on relationships, connection & listening
• Being honest
• Sticking to ethics & standards
• Being genuine
• Being myself, and also focusing on increasing others' happiness
• Mediation practice, ideal self alignment
• Expressing gratitude often
• Success journal
• Teaching improvements
• Overcoming & performing well despite large fear (cruise ship Karaoke adventure + snorkeling)
• Early positive habits (cleaning, exercise, reading)
• Expressing needs/wants in the positive / team focus
• Priority management & clarity (huge increase)
• Self discipline w/MMAmadeEASY
• Team recognition, acknowledgement
• Self aware "vibrations" - what am I broadcasting/receiving?
• Conversational mindfulness.  What energy am I encouraging / multiplying?
• Self listening/self talk, field training
• Meetings and counselling with friends & students

What Didn't?

• Getting preachy
• Being self delusional
• Not asking for help
• Time based stress & fear
• Telling others potential good news before it was a done deal
• "new dwelling excuses" loss of positive habits, diet choices, exercise decline
• Being judgmental
• Late positive habits ("I'll get to it later", but then being tired or it being "too late")
• Threats instead of requests
• Self control & excuses
• Ignoring reminders/dealing with what's urgent vs what's important
• Infrequently noted and used, un-urgent to do lists

Lessons Learned

• People prefer to discover things on their own.  Helping them do that can be more beneficial than showing them solutions.  Longer lasting & more powerful change happens in this way.
• With the right questions, helping & guiding are appreciated
• Knowing what's really going on lends itself to more concrete action plans & the overcoming of overwhelm.
• With quality relationships, friends & family are always willing to help
• Honesty & Tragedy have the power to mend fractured relationships
• It's good to have milestones, not "deadlines" & stress points
• When things are "out of your control" focus on other things.  Focusing on potential negative outcomes only quickens their likelihood into manifestation.
• Be proactive, solution oriented, clear & patient
• Checks & Balances help positive habits grow as does positive reinforcement.
• Excuses are lame.  Take ownership and just friggin' do it.
• Finding faults is fine, but use tact, probing & patience.
• Just like in class, frustration or being too "goal" oriented can have the adverse effect.  Instead, be patient & focus on getting better.
• Even marginal improvement, especially when recognized (ideally by the self as well) is better than frustration
• Improve & plan & introspect in the morning.  Work & play in the evening.
• Sharpen the saw, use it, repeat.
• Ask, and it is given.  Threaten, and it is withheld.
• Self control & self discipline are different.  My focus upon self discipline has left my self control in need of development.
• A big why turns baby steps into baby skips!
• A great teammate is priceless.  Be generous to them.

Coming up next:  C3GUS, ideal value placement & evolution.