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Sensei Ono, founder of Shinka Martial Arts, is a teacher and student of life. His passion for helping others and self improvement is the purpose behind this blog. -- "If your purpose in any way includes making the world a better place, I urge to you read, and share the knowledge."

Saturday, August 20, 2011

How to lose weight, be rich, be happy, have a great relationship, be healthy and achieve the impossible

For every extreme outcome, there is the same process to follow.

1)  Define your outcome, and write it down in explicit and implicit detail.  That is, write down the exact goal, and define it so that it takes the form of an "order" rather than a dream.  eg an average of $1 p/second passive income, indefinitely and in perpetuity is better than "make lots of money".

2)  Define your process, and write it down in explicit and implicit detail.  That is, whose problems are you going to solve, and in which way?  Through which processes?  When?  How much?  "Invest my money" is great, but "research the following 6 companies via methods described in the following 8 books and invest 20% of my coffee money over the next 8 years, taking the time to update my knowledge on Sundays at 4pm" is better.

3)  Decide on a due date based off of estimates from #2

4) Go into explicit detail as to how you will use #2, to achieve #1, by #3.  Whose help will you need, what will you need to learn, how long will it take to rest and recuperate from aspects of your training.  Plan, plan plan!

5) Draft #1 to #4 into a statement of affirmation.

6) Recite #5 to yourself in the morning first thing, and, before you go to bed, and visualize yourself having already achieved it with emotions you would feel upon its completion.  Keep track of your benchmarks and be flexible in method, and stubborn with outcome.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

The language of martial arts

I had an interesting discussion with a student today on their difficulty with memorization.

I let them know that martial arts is like learning a language - the fact that they couldn't necessarily remember the exact sequence of a combo they'd learned a week ago was of little importance - could they remember the exact syntax of their first conversation this morning?  Probably not - but, could they replicate it if someone provided, or fed them, the same input?

ie:
"hey, how's it going?"
"Great!"

the fact that this was an automatic response made it less relevant if "great!" was followed by "how's your wife?" or "but I stepped on a tack" or any other millions of variations.

What mattered, was that the language was automatic, and shot from the hip without thought.

Martial arts is the same.

It doesn't matter if you remember "block kick punch duck punch block kick" - what matters is:  if someone throws a punch, that you have an automatic and effective reaction.  And, after that reaction happens, you have another, also automatic and effective follow up motion, and so on, and so on.

When syntax is important (and there are movements where it is), those motions should be treated as "one" motion, not as a sequence of individual motions ("y'knowwhatImean?" might be a language example) thereby freeing up the brain of remembering specific sequences, and leaving it to the reflexive motions to do all the work for us.

There is no time for thought, just as it might be difficult to sing a song in rhythm if one had to learn the language for each word on the karaoke machine's screen while it was playing.


Sensei Ono

Monday, August 1, 2011

Why You're Both Right | Communication, Beliefs and Values

I think one of the biggest impacts on my communication style has been Tony Robbins.  

I remember one instance in particular, where I learned how subjective broad terms such as "respect" could be.

The story was of Tony himself, and his wife.  She and he had been getting into arguments, and, were upset with the way each was handling themselves during the argument.

While both had the #1 value of "respect" being crucial to a relationship, they were still, in each others' eyes, being very disrespectful towards each other.  How could this be?

The reason was, they had each defined "respect" differently.  They had the same values, but contrasting beliefs as to how those values were fulfilled.

Tony had grown up in a household where respect was very important.  If you got into an argument with someone, it was respectful for you to tell the truth.  Say what was on your mind and, even if you had to yell to get your point across, you would get the problem solved.  It was incredibly disrespectful to leave in the middle of an argument, as this would rob the person of the ability to resolve the situation.

Sage, his wife, in contrast, had grown up in a household where respect was very important.  If you got into an argument, it was respectful for you to cool off, and discuss things in a rational discussion later, once the emotion had left the situation.  It was incredibly disrespectful to yell at someone, and even more so, to not allow the person their space when it was requested.

Can you imagine the fights between these two as they both "respected" the other?

When we have our partners, as well as friends, students, associates, business partners etc, and some issue comes forth, I would say that the issues are often not values, but the beliefs as to how those values are fulfilled, that are the root of the issue.